How to Make Hard Decisions When Nothing Feels Clear

For the stuck, the fogged, and the overthinkers.

Indecision.

You’re at the crossroads. The signs are smudged, the map’s outdated, and the weather has absolutely turned on you. It’s raining confusion and blowing sideways doubt. Every voice around you is shouting something different—each one equally urgent, equally certain, equally loud.

“Follow your gut,” one insists.
“Make a pros and cons list,” says another.
Someone else says, “Follow your heart and wait for peace.”

But your gut? It’s twisted with anxiety. That list? Convoluted, contradictory, and only growing longer. And peace—the thing you’re supposed to wait for? Feels distant.

So what do you actually do when you don’t know what to do?

Most bad decisions don’t come from a lack of clarity or even additional information. They come from fear. Fear of cost. Fear of grief. Fear of choosing wrong and not being able to go back. We say we’re confused, but often what we really are… is afraid.

And while you’re sitting there, waiting for the fog to lift, you might forget something important: not choosing is still a choice. It feels safer. It buys time. It feels responsible, even prayerful. But delay, especially when driven by fear, is rarely as neutral as it pretends to be.